Children are messy and noisy and loud and whiney.
Children cry and fight and annoy and bother.
Children stumble and fall and break things and scream.
We all know this going in. Or at least we should. From infancy through the teenage years (and beyond!) we are challenged. Every. Single. Day. Forever. No joke. How we react is key. Is it helpful to share our frustrations with others? Absolutely! It makes the process of child-rearing real. Is it healthy to bitch and moan about your kids ALL the TIME? The answer is simple – no.
Let’s face it, raising children is a difficult task. Adjusting to a newborn is probably one of the hardest challenges I ever had to go through. It’s definitely one of the most grounding, mind-altering, loving events in my life. Sleepless nights, endless laundry and diaper changes, 24/7 breast-feeding. Coming to the realization that life is no longer solely about me. The pressure of knowing that the choices I make in these early years will shape my child. Dealing with inconveniences is inevitable, but it’s part of the story. An essential part. A part that teaches and tests. A part that helps me dig deep within myself to see what I’m really made of. The sooner I focused in on this, the sooner my vision and plan for my family came together. As a mother, I fall on my face…a lot. But I get up – again and again and again.
When will we realize that parenting our children is a privilege and a responsibility – not a hindrance? Our kids need us to provide for them and support them and make important decisions for them. They need us to be their teachers and their playmates and their boo-boo kissers. Every day, we are molding them physically, emotionally, and spiritually through our actions or inactions. Raising a child should be a wonderful journey, not a bitch-fest. It requires an educated mind, a loving soul, and inexplicable acts of kindness. All in all, being a mother is a thankless job, but it helps to remember that:
Children are wonderful and funny and pure.
Children are full of love and light and strength.
Children are inspiring and adventurous and beautiful.
Children . . . they string our joys, like jewels bright, upon the thread of years. ~Edward A. Guest